Our essay starts with two self-experienced stories where we describe how we as pedagogues act when children do not behave as we wish. We examine the different perspectives that can influence us pedagogues to act as we do. Our narrative about Kevin, seven years old, shows how he is excluded from his school mates as they perceive him as disruptive. Also the narrative about Pelle six years old is about his dislike of an activity he is forced to attendag ainst his will. The study is based on a hermeneutical method where, through the interpretation of different perspectives, we discuss several aspects that affect us in our actions. The perspectives we have chosen to highlight are treatment of children, organization, power structures, communication and reflection. Our narratives differ from each other in the way that the recreation instructor Ulrika has no mandate over her situation on this particular day she helps as an extra support in a class atschool. However Annica as regular pedagogue at the preschool owns and control her situation. We reflect about the interaction of our perspectives with each other and problematize them in a context. We clarify that different aspects interact with each other. In our essay we point out the importance of reflection for pedagogues in order to be able to see their own approachand how they handle and communicate with each other and with the children. We interpret our narratives by using the different theories.