Literature on identities in marriage has suggested that there is a tension between the interpretation of marriage as a unity between two partners, and the importance of each partner within the marriage maintaining his/her individuality. By drawing on data from seven semistructured qualitative interviews with married couples or couples involved in marriage-like relationships I examine some ways in which these boundaries between individual and collective identities and associated epistemic rights are drawn or become treated as blurred. Specifically, I use a conversation analytic approach to examine two sets of practices that reveal how this tension is made observable and is negotiated: 1) the use of personal and collective pronouns and 2) shifts in gaze direction. In contrast to previous research on this topic, I focus on the exploration of these phenomena in their moment-by-moment construction in talk-in-interaction. Based on my findings, I conclude that these practices serve to demonstrate the oriented-to ways in which marriage involves compromising one’s own individual identity or epistemic rights while becoming a part of a unit and show how and where this is done in interaction.