The aim of this study is to explain and try to get an understanding for how women who are partners to substance missusers handle their lifesituation. To fulfill the aim of the study a qualitive method is used with a focus group as a data collection method. The theoretical framework is coping theory and system theory. The results show that women who are partners to substance missusers describe that they have a lifesituation filled with stress and worry. Because of their situation the women create and adjust their behaviors. We have been able to define the behaviors the women describe as ways to cope with their situation by using different coping strategies. Another part of the results show that women as a result of living with a substance missuser have developed new routines that have both positive and negative effects in the women’s everyday life. Furthermore the results show that those around the women try to influence the women´s ways to cope with their situations. The women describe that they only in a few cases considerate the opinions from those around them.