In this essay, I discuss one of the recurring dilemmas for a working recreational pedagogue, namely the hard task of cooperation with parents. As a recreational pedagogue, I am required to work by the curriculum Läroplan för grundskolan, förskoleklassen och fritidshemmet 2011. This policy document talks about what my responsibilities are, including establishing collaboration with parents in terms of the children’s development and education. It happens, however, that the pedagogue and the parent's ethical positions differ. When norms collide, it is my responsibility as a recreational pedagogue to relate to the different norms in a professional manner. In this essay I argue that, one of the main characteristics of a competent pedagogue is the ability to meet various parents with their respective backgrounds, to be able to interpret the individuals and meet them in an encouraging way for the children's development. Personal identity today is multiple, as an individual, I have created myself a number of identities which apply at different times. At home, I'm a mother, at family dinners; I am a daughter, sister and granddaughter. At university, I am a student and at my workplace, I am recreational pedagogue. Thus, I am not only my profession but also a human with my own experiences, interpretations and feelings. From them I act. In this essay, I draw on my own experiences where my view of ethics and upbringing is different from a parent's sight. In essay writing, I reflect on my actions in the events with the help of various ethical theories and the intercultural approach. Through my writing, I have been given a chance to pause and reflect on my own behavior in situations where I meet parents of other opinions than my own. How can I act differently and more professionally in these meetings in the future?