基於生理、心理與社會因素，女性愉悅較男性複雜。本論文試圖藉由美國當代暢銷作家尼克拉斯‧史派克的愛情小說為文本，結合許多性別相關的理論去探討女性愉悅。史派克的羅曼史是當代文本，唯美的純愛是其特色，然而，這些帶來美好感受的愛情故事，是否是讀者們真心嚮往的美好愛情? 讀者在享受閱讀文本的當下，或許也默默地被一種僵化的愛情公式所限制，所謂的快樂，也許只是一種暫時的麻痺。 本篇論文從幾個不同角度切入去分析女性愉悅和羅曼史的關聯，第一章以丁尼斯坦的理論為切入點，就心理與社會層面探究為何女性在選擇伴侶上比男性有著更多限制，其理論也連結到嬰兒期由母親養育對於不同性別成年後伴侶關係有影響 ; 第二章以史派克這三本羅曼史<<手札情緣>><<瓶中信>><<分手信>>文本為主，並結合性別理論去分析羅曼史，探討其女性在羅曼史中的真相為何，文本裡也有許多部份展現出女性的許多壓抑；第三章以讀者回應為主要分析，藉由社群網站臉書的讀者真實回應，並結合過去其他做過相關讀者回應的理論與實際田野調查，分析不同時候讀者都藉由羅曼史得到快樂，不同的讀者群有共同與相異的讀者回應；第四章從這三本羅曼史的書信體形式，研究他者的缺席如何帶來快樂與痛苦，遠距離的愛情造就書信的存在，這其中的等待與期待，盼望與失望，主體不斷找尋失落客體的過程，都不斷創造失落與愉悅；第五章結論綜合前四章論點，提出女性要真正愉悅的努力方向。 / Due to biological, psychological and social reasons, female pleasure is seen as much more complicated than male pleasure. In this thesis, I try to analyse female pleasure by applying gender theories to the romances of Nicholas Sparks. Sparks is a contemporary writer mainly producing pure love stories. Are these love stories the ideal that readers pursue? When readers get pleasure from reading romance, they may be brainwashed unconsciously and limited by a fixed pattern of love. So-called happiness might be a temporary escape. This thesis attempts to analyse the relationship between female pleasure and romance from several perspectives. Chapter 1 assesses Dorothy Dinnerstenin’s viewpoint that women face more psychological and societal constraints when choosing a partner. The mother takes care of children when they are infants, leading to differentiation of the opposite sex as they grow up. Chapter 2 examines three of Sparks’ romances – The Notebook, Message in a Bottle and Dear John – in the context of various theories to analyse the truth in romance and how repression is reflected in these texts. In Chapter 3, readers’ responses are the main focus. I have used readers’ responses gathered from Facebook and have made a connection with other romance reader responses. I have also attempted to combine both the similar and different viewpoints in Radwan’s Reading Romance and Linda K. Christian-Smith’s Becoming a Woman through Romance with my own analysis. In Chapter 4, I have used the epistolary form of these three romances to research how the lack of the other brings pleasure and pain. The epistolary form stems from long distance relationships, and during the process of waiting letters, the subject keeps finding the lost object and acquires pleasure and pain again and again. Chapter 5 is my conclusion and proposes a way for women to find real pleasure.

在大多數人的日記經驗中，藏匿、上鎖、被偷窺後的憤怒總是如影隨形，因為所有說不出與不能說的秘密，都被寄情於日記之中。然而隨著網路普及，越來越多的基本生活需求可藉由網路滿足後，傳統的紙本日記也開始轉以網路作為記載與儲存的媒介，成了任何人都可公開遊賞的園地。 / 本文基於研究者本身在網路日記社群三年來的親身書寫參與經驗，以「愛情國小」作為主要研究場域，除了以日記作為文本分析的對象外，並深入訪談重度使用者以及退用者，以瞭解使用者如何處理既公開又私密的網路日記書寫。本文自日記在東西方的歷史發展出發，先行定位私密在日記中扮演的角色，再輔以從社會心理學層面對秘密本質的探討，來重新探討公開與私密的問題。最後以Goffman分析日常生活之人際互動的戲劇理論為本，佐以社會學中的陌生人理論，解析人們如何在公開的網路日記裡進行表演，其間的變與不變。 / 顛覆了傳統紙本日記之私密形式的公開網路日記，之所以能為日記書寫者接受或喜愛，無非是它既能滿足日記書寫的基本需求，同時又能在日記書寫之餘創造與他人社交互動的樂趣。雖然紙本日記「自我忠實紀錄」之要素，必須仰賴將他人隔離的秘密形式才得以達成，但日記書寫者仍是企圖向日記中想像的對象揭露公開，解決秘密無處可訴的焦慮。而網路日記不僅隔離了現實生活中的親友熟人，更進一步為日記書寫者帶來了能提供積極聆聽，並能給予回應互動的具體觀眾。這些網路上似近實遠、似遠實近的陌生人，讓網路日記書寫者願意公開與之分享私密自我，並且無須擔憂網路日記紀錄的後台面向會對現實生活之前台演出造成破壞。換言之，網路日記既有公開面對觀眾、在意觀眾反應的前台特性，亦有自現實生活前台角色解放、呈現私密自我的後台性質，實則為一結合了公開與私密、前台與後台之「私密自我的展演」的中間地帶。因此，網路日記書寫者只能透過訊息管道的操弄與分寸拿捏，隨著與不同觀眾間親疏遠近的關係變化，揭露不同層面或程度的私密，且更進一步控制與不同觀眾間的心理距離。 / Diaries, on which personal matters are inscribed, are defined as a literary form that is written for oneself and therefore are kept privately, some even locked up, to avoid prying. However, the privateness, the distinguishing characteristic of diaries, has abated since the prevalent internet has become one of the media of storing content of diaries. The study is to investigate how diary writers coping with the conflict between the privateness and publicness in online diaries. / This study is based on the personal online diary writing experience of the author for three years in "Love School" ( http://love.youthwant.com.tw), the field of this study. The interviews with nine persons, including heavy users and dropouts that had ever been indulgent in Love School, are the main qualitative analysis material with some online diaries for textual analysis. / Beginning from exploring the changes in the nature of diaries both in eastern and western history, the study proceeds with probing to the characteristic of secrecy to comprehend that diaries inherently are both public and private. Moreover, Goffman's theory of human interaction in daily life and Simmel's of strangers offer steppingstones to detail the features—interacting and sharing intimacy with others unknown—of writing diaries on public internet. / Briefly speaking, the prevailing phenomenon of online diaries reveals that making diaries public can satisfy the needs of recording private life and of social contact simultaneously. Despite that traditional diary is kept away from anyone to ensure frankness, all the diary writers indeed still reveal themselves in it to some object(s), real or imaginary. Online diaries not only can exclude, if writers want, people who know them in person, but also bring in the unlimited audience with real feedback. Since the audience is composed of strangers, somehow far enough not to reach online diary writer's everyday life but virtually close to see his/her innermost, the online diary writer doesn't have to be anxious about the destruction of frontstage performances in everyday life, caused by backstage behaviors in diary being revealed. In other words, online diary is a frontstage as well as a backstage, that is, a middle region, where the division of the public and private is blurred. In online diaries, diary writers are able to disclose private selves hidden from frontstage role playing while audience¹s gaze and applause, absent in backstage, is all around. To reconcile the conflict between publicness and privateness, online diary writers master in manipulating information accesses and discretion. Therefore, they can disclose different aspects and degrees of privacy to various audiences according to various relationships, and can be the dominators subsequently to control psychological distances between them.