The aim of this study was to gain an increased knowledge of what it is that makes a woman who is or has been subjected to violence, by a man with whom she had a close relationship, leaves. With the study, we wanted to get an insight into what made the break-up possible and examine the importance of the people around her, to understand how we better can provide the support she needs both before, during and after the break-up. The empiric material consisted of eight semi-structured qualitative interviews based on an interview guide with eight women who had been subjected to violence by a male partner. The material has been analysed through the exit theory and the normalization process of violence, and related to previous research on the subject. The results and the conclusions shows that the man after some time began to show new sides, and a period of mental degradation through isolation and psychological violence followed, which made many of the women start thinking about leaving. Breaking up proved to be difficult and often consisted of several attempts before the final leave. A specific event with particularly severe violence or that he became a danger for her or the children’s lives proved to be common reasons for her to leave, because it gave her the strength she needed or because she simply had to. We found that the women often were exposed to the man's violence even after the break-up and that violence could be perceived as worse than the relationship itself. After leaving, the understanding comes, and a long period of depression, therapy and sick leave follows. The need for support and help from the woman's network turned out to be the greatest after the break-up. Several women withdrew to report to the police due to fear of not being believed. We found that police reporting, interrogations and the legal process that followed could have a healing effect if the woman felt believed and confirmed, but an opposite effect if she was met with incomprehension. The women seemed to find it easier to absorb information about intimate partner violence from social media than from information leaflets from authorities and organizations. Sharing their own story on social media contributed to both healing and processing. It was also easier to talk to strangers on social media about what you have been exposed to, because of the anonymity.

Made available in DSpace on 2016-04-28T20:39:03Z (GMT). No. of bitstreams: 1 Isabel Bernardes Ferreira.pdf: 447577 bytes, checksum: 001456d9c918498368ced71a95df0953 (MD5) Previous issue date: 2015-04-10 / Coordenação de Aperfeiçoamento de Pessoal de Nível Superior / The number of people living with the partner without formalize the relationship grows every year . Many of these couples break up, but little is known about the impact of separation on their lives and future relationships. Often, that there was no marriage or children , people expect quick and without major consequences recovery. This study aimed to discuss the loving disruption experienced by young adults who lived together in order to identify its variables and meanings. Therefore, we carried out a descriptive and exploratory qualitative study. A questionnaire with open and closed questions based on the literature, published and answered online was built. Based on the 35 questionnaires identified that, although the the breaking up in the condition cohabiting condition is simpler than divorce, once the legal compliance is not required, those involved undergo a significant distress to the separation and see the need to reorganize their lives in various spheres: sexual, emotional - affective , professional, economic , social and family relationships . The data found in this study support previous findings reporting that, generally, cohabitation is a short term experience it reaches the end, almost always before two years / O número de pessoas que vivem junto com o/a parceiro/a sem oficializar a relação cresce a cada ano. Muitos desses casais rompem o convívio, mas pouco se sabe sobre o impacto dessa separação sobre a vida e relacionamentos futuros dos envolvidos nessa situação. Frequentemente, por não ter havido casamento ou filhos, as pessoas esperam uma recuperação rápida e sem grandes consequências. A presente pesquisa tem por objetivo problematizar o rompimento amoroso vivido por jovens adultos que moraram juntos, na perspectiva de identificar suas variáveis e significados. Para tanto, realizou-se um estudo exploratório descritivo e qualitativo. Foi construído um questionário com perguntas abertas e fechadas baseado na literatura, divulgado e respondido on-line. Com base em 35 questionários identificou-se que, apesar de romper o relacionamento na circunstância da coabitação seja mais simples do que o divórcio, na medida em que não é necessária a observância legal, os sujeitos envolvidos passam por um sofrimento significativo com a separação e veem a necessidade de reorganizar suas vidas nas mais diversas esferas: sexual, emocional-afetiva, profissional, econômica, social e familiar. Os dados apresentados nessa pesquisa validam resultados anteriormente encontrados e informam que geralmente a coabitação é uma experiência de curta duração que chega ao fim quase sempre antes dos dois anos

Utgångspunkten inför studien är att våld i nära relationer inte sällan benämns som mäns våld mot kvinnor och syftar till att det är ett fenomen som främst förekommer inom heterosexuella relationer, där mannen framförallt ses som förövaren. Vi ser att våld i samkönade relationer därigenom riskerar att inte bli lika uppmärksammat. Från litteraturen går det att utläsa att det kan påverka tillgången till stöd och hjälp för personer som lever i våldsamma samkönade relationer. Vidare ser vi även att hbtq-personer, världen över, många gånger lever utan samma rättigheter som heterosexuella. Studien har som syfte att undersöka hur våld i samkönade relationer, uppbrott och bemötande kan uppfattas och beskrivas från personer som levt i en våldsam samkönad relation. Studiens material har samlats in från offentligt publicerade, personliga, berättelser på sociala forum, både internationellt och nationellt. Studiens resultat visade att våldet i en samkönad relation kan beskrivas på liknande sätt som våld i nära relation. Däremot framgick det i resultatet att målgruppen kan stå inför en specifik utsatthet till följd av samhällets struktur och normer. Denna aspekt återfanns i våldets olika uttryck, uppbrott och bemötande. Det är en aspekt som vanligtvis inte återfinns i våld i nära, heterosexuella, relationer. Ett annat resultat från studien var att hjälp- och serviceorganisationer inte ansetts vara behjälpliga och anpassade att bemöta målgruppen. Däremot framkom det att individuella professionella har ansetts behjälpliga i uppbrottet och tiden efteråt. Det återfanns även ett märkbart fenomen inom resultatet där män som är utsatta av våld tenderar stå utanför samhällets skyddssystem. Det framgick att mäns utsatthet, i sig, osynliggörs genom samhällets förutfattade meningar kring maskulinitet och mannens roll i samhället. Slutsatser från studien är att våld i samkönade relationer till stor del liknar det våld som återfinns i våld i nära relationer, men att det finns aspekter som skiljer sig. Dessa aspekter utgörs av hbtq-personers generella, och karaktäristiska, utsatthet i samhället och kan leda till att personerna blir dubbelt isolerade. Slutligen har vi även kunnat dra en slutsats om att heteronormen i ett samhälle kan bidra till att fenomenet blir obelyst. / Our prior view is that violence in close relationships is not often referred as men's violence against women and aims to be a phenomenon which mainly occurs in heterosexual relationships, where the man is the perpetrator. Therefore, violence in same sex relationships risks not being as well known. Based on the literature this may affect access to support and help for people living in violent same sex relationships. Furthermore, we also see that LGBTQ-people often live without same rights as heterosexuals. The aim of this study was to investigate how break-up and response regarding violence in same sex relationships can be perceived and described from people who have lived in a violent same sex relationship. The materials of the study have been collected from publicly published, personal, stories on social forums, both internationally and nationally. The results of the study show that violence in a same sex relationship can be expressed similarly as violence in a close relationship. However, the results showed that the target group can face a specific vulnerability as a result of the structure and norms of society. This aspect was found in various expressions, break-up and response of violence. It is an aspect usually not found in violence in close, heterosexual, relationships. Another result was that aid and service organizations were not considered helpful nor adapted to meet the target group. However, it emerged that individual professionals were considered helpful in the break-up and afterwards. There was also a noticeable phenomenon where men who were subjected to violence tend to be outside the social protection system. It appears that men's vulnerability is invisible through society's preconceived notions of masculinity and man's role in society. Conclusions drawn in the study are that violence in same sex relationships is similar to the violence found in close relationships, though there are aspects that differ. These aspects constitutes from LGBTQ-peoples general vulnerability in society and how it risks causing them to become doubly isolated. Finally, we have been able to conclude that the heteronorm can contribute to the phenomenon going unresolved.