Blended families are fast becoming the pattern for marriage in a century where divorce is prevalent. This study focussed on the fact that couples are not being adequately prepared through premarital counselling for the problem areas found within the blended family. The basis theoretical perspective revealed that problems that are typical today within the blended family were shown to be present from the moment that man deviated from God's plan for the ideal marriage, and that many examples of this are found in the Bible. The meta theoretical perspective showed that there are very specific problems associated with couples who consider marriage for a second time. The research indicated that the conflict manifested itself w i t h four major areas: Parental conflict; discipline of children; maternal negativity; and the crisis of identity found within stepchildren. The empirical section of this study revealed that the premarital counselling used by couples facing a blended marriage did not adequately prepare them and that of all the couples surveyed, whether they had done premarital counselling or not, all had struggled within the same areas in their marriages. It was found that there were large gaps within the premarital counselling given and that these gaps correlated with the four main conflict issues mentioned earlier. Furthermore, the study showed that the church is not regarded as being the institution that can help blended families in their conflict issues. Remarital counselling guidelines have been proposed in the form of an acronym 'WISER FAMILIES'. These guidelines address particularly the conflict areas that the research identified, which were not addressed by conventional premarital counselling. Guidelines were also proposed for churches, to assist them in dealing with the problems experienced by blended families, and suggests practical ways to meet their needs, using the implementation of support and focus groups. / Thesis (M.A. (Pastoral))--North-West University, Potchefstroom Campus, 2007

Thesis (M.A. (Pastoral))--North-West University, Potchefstroom Campus, 2007.

Blended families are fast becoming the pattern for marriage in a century where divorce is prevalent. This study focussed on the fact that couples are not being adequately prepared through premarital counselling for the problem areas found within the blended family. The basis theoretical perspective revealed that problems that are typical today within the blended family were shown to be present from the moment that man deviated from God's plan for the ideal marriage, and that many examples of this are found in the Bible. The meta theoretical perspective showed that there are very specific problems associated with couples who consider marriage for a second time. The research indicated that the conflict manifested itself w i t h four major areas: Parental conflict; discipline of children; maternal negativity; and the crisis of identity found within stepchildren. The empirical section of this study revealed that the premarital counselling used by couples facing a blended marriage did not adequately prepare them and that of all the couples surveyed, whether they had done premarital counselling or not, all had struggled within the same areas in their marriages. It was found that there were large gaps within the premarital counselling given and that these gaps correlated with the four main conflict issues mentioned earlier. Furthermore, the study showed that the church is not regarded as being the institution that can help blended families in their conflict issues. Remarital counselling guidelines have been proposed in the form of an acronym 'WISER FAMILIES'. These guidelines address particularly the conflict areas that the research identified, which were not addressed by conventional premarital counselling. Guidelines were also proposed for churches, to assist them in dealing with the problems experienced by blended families, and suggests practical ways to meet their needs, using the implementation of support and focus groups. / Thesis (M.A. (Pastoral))--North-West University, Potchefstroom Campus, 2007

Self-discovery is an important process to the personal and social development of children and adults. Today's educators need to acknowledge and encourage the process of self-discovery in children in order for them to enjoy an enriched life of meaning and fulfillment. The implications of my story, that of a co-parent in a loving and nurturing blended family, are robust to educators and families. I challenge educators working with co-parented children to see the benefits of co-parenting and how not all blended families result in troubled, imbalanced, or resentful children and parents, as much of the current literature suggests. I urge educators to promote the process of self-discovery in children of blended families using an interdisciplinary approach. I embolden parents to listen to the stories their children have to tell and incorporate their experiences into the meaning making experience of raising a family and to remember that they are their children's primary educators. Written within a Scholarly Personal Narrative methodology, my thesis proposes that, through the process of self-discovery, children, parents, educators and advocates can work together to create meaningful experiences within their own lives. I will write a realistic, but kind and compassionate story with a variety of characters that are relatable to anyone who is in or knows someone who is in a blended family. Blended families are becoming increasingly common which highlights how the culture in this particular micro-society is changing as a result of individual and family needs. This thesis will shed light on this natural occurrence in a clear and accessible way that speaks to children and parents in blended families, educators working with these individuals as well as bystanders, friends, family and advocates of families of all types.

Father absence and the introduction of a stepfather before menarche have been shown to contribute to the early onset of menarche. The present study analyzes the effects of father absence situations that tend to result on the onset of menarche. Presence of a related male in a father-absent homes is also considered as a protective factor for menarcheal onset. Participants consisted of 342 female students enrolled in undergraduate work at a southeastern university. The mean age of participants was 20.7 years. Participants completed a survey consisting of 12 questions pertaining to their family environment before menarche. Participants were asked to give their age at first menarche in years and months. Results indicted a significant difference in menarcheal age between those from homes where both biological parents were present and those where the biological father was absent before menarche. No other significant results were found. Implications for future research discussed.

La thèse vise à déterminer les moyens juridiques qui permettent dans la famille recomposée de transmettre un patrimoine entre le beau-parent et l'enfant avec lequel il n'existe aucun lien d'alliance ou de sang qualifié d'enfant-tiers. Est-il possible qu'une relation affective puisse se transformer en liens juridiques ayant des conséquences positives envers l'enfant-tiers ? Nous examinerons les limites offertes par le droit positif français qui empêchent une véritable transmission au sein de la famille recomposée. Nous analyserons certains systèmes juridiques non spécifiques au droit de la famille qui permettent d'atteindre certains buts de transmission. Un constat sera fait sur la précarité de ces moyens juridiques et la non satisfaction concernant la transmission patrimoniale entre le beau-parent et l'enfant-tiers. Nous ferons diverses propositions pour que cette relation affective existant au sein de la famille recomposée soit véritablement prise en compte dans le droit patrimonial de la famille. Nous pensons que le défi du XXIème siècle sera d'inclure l'enfant-tiers comme membre véritable de la nouvelle famille qui se recompose en lui permettant de recevoir une transmission patrimoniale. / The abstract is available in French only

L’objectif de cette étude est d’analyser comment l’enfant de 6 à 13 ans s’approprie la recomposition familiale (Malrieu & Malrieu, 1973 ; Malrieu, 1976) et quels rôles jouent les relations dans la fratrie germaine dans cette appropriation. Notre analyse se fonde sur une approche bioécosystémique (Bronfenbrenner, 1996). Les relations fraternelles sont examinées à partir d’un entretien semi-directif. L’appropriation de la famille recomposée est appréhendée grâce au dessin de la famille, au Kidcope (Spirito, Stark & Williams, 1988), au Child Behavior Checklist (CBCL, Achenbach, 1991) et à l’Autoquestionnaire Qualité de vie-enfant-imagé (AUQEI, Magnificat & Dazord, 1997). Les principaux résultats révèlent que les enfants font des choix électifs des membres de leur famille sur la base des liens biologiques, des personnes significatives dans leur vie et de la qualité des rapports avec leur entourage. Le facteur de stress le plus souvent évoqué par les enfants est le beau-parent et son approche éducative. La stratégie la plus mobilisée et jugée efficace par les enfants réfère au soutien social. Dans l’ensemble les enfants présentent une adaptation socio-affective et une qualité de vie satisfaisante. Au niveau des relations dans la fratrie germaine, il ressort qu’elles sont perçues par la majorité des enfants comme une ressource dans la recomposition familiale, étant à la fois continue et soutenante. Les analyses bivariées indiquent une influence significative des facteurs personnels (âge, sexe), du contexte familial (caractéristiques de la fratrie, mode de garde) et du temps (durée de la recomposition, temps écoulé depuis la séparation) sur l’appropriation de la famille. / The present study investigates how 6 to 13 years old children appropriate their stepfamily/blended family (Malrieu & Malrieu, 1973; Malrieu, 1976) and how sibling relationships might influence that appropriation. Our analysis is based on the bioecological approach (Bronfenbrenner, 1996). Sibling relationships were examined using a semi-directive interview. The appropriation of the stepfamily was investigated on the basis of the drawing of the family, the Kidcope (Spirito, Stark and Williams, 1988), the Child Behavior Checklist (CBCL, Achenbach, 1991) and the “AUtoquestionnaire Qualité de vie-Enfant-Imagé” (AUQEI, Magnificat & Dazord, 1997). Results indicate that children make elective choices of their family members mainly on the basis of their biological relationships, the most important persons influencing their life and the quality of the relationship with their close circle. We shall emphasize that the most stressful factor generally evoked by children usually originates from the stepparent and his educational approach. Furthermore, the results show that social support appears as the most efficient strategy often used by the children. Generally, we noticed a satisfying socio-emotional adaptation and life quality of the sampled children. Mostly, the relationships among siblings are found as a resource within their stepfamily as long as those relationships are both sustained and supportive. Cross-correlated statistical analysis of the data showed significant influence of person characteristics (age, sex), family context (sibling characteristics, child custody) and time factors (elapsed time since separation, duration of the second union) on the appropriation of family.