In this study – Just a girlfriend who lives far away? – I interview fifteen girls about their experiences with computer mediated relationships. From a queer theoretical perspective I examine how these girls do and talk about their relationships, in relation to norms about relationships and sexuality as well as notions about online and offline. My aim is to discuss in which ways the performing of these relationships both reproduce and challenge norms about relationships and sexuality. The girls I interview attempt in different ways to show that doing relationships online is just as ”normal” as doing them offline. While normative assumptions about components such as monogamy and love as being vital to a relationship often are reproduced in the performing of these relationships, I assert that the ways in which these relationships are done hold a subversive potential to challenge normative understandings of concepts such as relationship, sexuality, sex, physicality and closeness.

The 1980s was a decade when homosexuality was frequently debated because of the contemporary incoming of aids. Since aids first affected homo- and bisexual men they became stigmatized as the risk group. The Swedish authorities started to act with epidemical methods at 1985/86, which restricted the sexual minority. This study, unlike others made before, contextualizes the lawmaking of Bastuklubbslagen, a prohibition concerning gaysaunas, by analyzing it with queer theoretic perspectives. Through an investigation of Bastuklubbslagen and contemporary sexual norms, this survey shows that the making of distinctions between hetero- and homosexuality were central to the context of the lawmaking. The outcome primarily shows that sexual norms were linked to a heteronormative point of view when Bastuklubbslagen was motivated by the authorities. Heteronormative ideals about monogamy and twosomeness made impact on the founding of the law. Sex between men was pointed out as harmful and gaysaunas as the explicit locations for the spreading of aids. My survey is contextualizing behaviors as the authorities described meant a risk of being infected by aids, or to spread it. My study has shown that homo- and bisexuals were regarded as the active actors of aids increasing, while the heterosexual majority was passivated. In the field of historical queer studies this study enhances the greatness of heterosexual normativity within the stigmatization and sanctions made by the authorities’, as Bastuklubbslagen became an aids prevention strategy.

Samkönade individer exkluderas i vardagliga sammanhang utefter sexualitetens normer. I föreliggande studie var syftet att få en fördjupad förståelse av hur samkönade föräldrar upplever bemötandet inom förskola/skola och vården. Studien är uppbyggd av en kvalitativ metod med semistrukturerade intervjufrågor där fem kvinnor samt fem män deltagit. Under tolkningsprocessen användes en tematisk analys. I resultatet presenteras respondenternas upplevelser av bemötandet inom förskola/skola och vården mestadels positivt, dock finns det specifika sammanhang där respondenterna upplevt obekväma situationer. Flera av respondenterna nämner att personalen behöver ha ett mer normkritiskt arbetssätt för att på så vis inkludera alla i bemötandet. Respondenterna upplever att de obekväma situationerna uppstår på grund av kunskapsbrist och att personalen är i behov av kompetensutveckling.Resultatet visar att respondenterna är trygga i sig själva och har utvecklats positivt enligt identitetsprocessen därför lägger de ingen större vikt i ett sämre bemötande samt hur samhällets normer påverkar individens självkänsla när de avviker från det som anses vara normalt. Diskussionen handlar om hur och varför sociala kategoriseringar bildas samt varför de existerar. En slutsats är att klimatet för samkönade individer är öppet men att heteronormen är starkt implementerat i samhällets strukturer och kan skapa exkludering. / Same-sex parents often feel excluded in everyday contexts due to the norms of sexuality. The aim of this study is to gain a deeper understanding of how same-sex parents experience treatment in preschool/school and healthcare. The study is based on a qualitative method with semistructured interview questions where five women and five men participated. The interviews have been thematically analyzed. The result presents the respondents' experiences of treatment in preschool/school and healthcare as mostly positive, while some respondents experienced uncomfortable situations in specific contexts. Several of the respondents mention the need for a more norm-critical approach among employees in preschool/school and healthcare in order to include all parents. The study further states that the respondents are confident in themselves and have developed positively pursuant to the identity process, and thus do not lay much importance in inferior treatment and do not experience that a deviation from societal norms have much impact on the individual's selfesteem. The discussion addresses the creation of social categorization and why it still exists in preschool/school and healthcare. One conclusion of this study is that the climate for same sex parents today is considered to be open albeit the heteronormativity is strongly implemented in preschool/school and healthcare which can create exclusion.